There are three areas on which comfort, stability, and ease of use depend for any first-time user. Most sex dolls are made either from TPE or silicone, both with internal skeletons that provide flexibility but are also surprisingly delicate and must be maneuvered with care in order not to damage the joints. Start with simple positions that will allow you to develop confidence with weight, resistance of the joints, and a realistic feel for more adventurous play.
This extended guide discusses entry-level positions, including how to set them up, advantages, variations, and precautions to take. The recommendations are sourced from conventional advice on the forums for sex doll enthusiasts. It cannot be overemphasized that one should use either pillows or furniture for support, as some of the most recommended positions, such as sex doll doggy style, are much better suited for later stages.
1. Missionary Position – The Ultimate Beginner Favourite
It is generally accepted that the safest starting position for newcomers is the missionary position, which grants complete control over the position, ample visibility, with a low amount of manual labor required.
Why it’s ideal for beginners:
- Maximum stability: The doll lies flat on a soft surface (like a bed).
- Easy access to adjust limbs, hips, or alignment without lifting heavy weights.
- Promotes intimacy through face-to-face positioning, allowing eye contact (if the doll has open eyes) and easy caressing.
- Low risk of joint stress or tipping over.
Setting up and tips step-by-step:
- Put the doll on its back on the bed.
- Slowly and gently open your legs to a 45-degree angle (do not force beyond the point of resistance).
- For perfect alignment and penetration, it is best to put a pillow under the hips to lift the pelvic area, thus facilitating penetration.
- Put your body on top of the doll, but support yourself with your arms and knees instead of putting your full weight on the doll.
- Use a water, based lubricant liberally.
- Variation: For extra reach, put your legs over your shoulders or bend one leg to create an asymmetrical position. This is a great position for a long session as you get to know the dolls responses and feel the different textures.
This position is perfect for longer sessions as you learn the doll’s responses and textures.
2. Cowgirl (Seated, Reclined, or Reverse) – Effortless Control with Visual Appeal
A modified cowgirl lets the doll “straddle” you while you remain in control, reducing the need to maneuver heavy limbs.
Why it’s beginner-safe:
- Your body or the bed supports most of the doll’s weight.
- Great for visual stimulation and hands-free caressing of breasts or hips.
- Low effort: You can thrust upward while holding the waist.
- Easy to pause and readjust.
Step-by-step setup and tips:
- The position involves sitting or leaning on the bed/chair with pillows at the back of the body.
- Position the doll in front of you (traditional “cowgirl” position), or reverse for a different look.
- Keep the torso supported by cushions to avoid a slumped posture.
- Lead the hips manually in motion – begin very gently in order to balance.
- Full straddling is preferred for lesser dolls, while for heavier dolls, it should be reclined.
- Tip: If you find that your bed is too soft, you can prop it up with a chair to provide stability.
- It is an active position, with good use of rhythm, although it is not complex.
This position feels interactive and is excellent for exploring rhythm without complexity.
3. Spooning – Intimate, Relaxed, and Low-Effort Cuddling
Spooning combines intimacy with minimal setup, making it a hidden gem for beginners seeking a cozy feel.
Benefits for first-timers:
- Natural body alignment with little joint manipulation.
- Full skin-to-skin contact for warmth and realism.
- Reduced pressure on limbs – ideal for extended, gentle sessions.
- Feels affectionate and less “performative.”
Step-by-step setup and tips:
- Lie on your side behind the doll (big spoon).
- Bend the doll’s arms forward and knees slightly (45-degree angle) for support.
- Gently lift the top leg for entry from behind (vaginal or anal).
- Use your arm to hug the torso or caress breasts.
- Add pillows between knees or under the head for extra comfort.
- Variation: Slight pelvic tilt for better clitoral-area friction simulation.
Spooning is perfect for relaxed evenings and works wonderfully for anal exploration with ample lube.
4. Sex Doll Doggy Style – Exciting but Best After Practice
The doggy style position using a sex doll is also very stimulating, both in terms of views as well as penetration. However, the position may pose a balance problem, so it is advised to attempt this position after adequate practice.
Why it’s popular (and why wait):
- Stunning visuals and easy access for spanking, grabbing, or dual penetration.
- Deeper angles for intense sensations.
- But: Requires careful balancing to prevent tipping or knee/hip strain.
Beginner-friendly tips for safe trial:
- Start on the bed: Position on all fours, using pillows under chest, hips, and knees for support.
- Avoid full weight on knees – prop with cushions to distribute evenly.
- Enter from behind while kneeling; hold hips firmly.
- Variation: “Bent over” edge-of-bed for standing entry – doll’s upper body on bed, legs down.
- Always check joint tension; use extra lube and move slowly.
Once comfortable with handling, doggy style often becomes a go-to for its raw energy.
5. Edge-of-Bed Position – Practical Standing Transition
This hybrid involves the doll at the bed’s edge, blending missionary stability with standing control.
Why beginners appreciate it:
- Bed supports the torso and weight.
- Adjustable height for standing or kneeling entry.
- Minimal limb stress; great full-body view.
Step-by-step setup and tips:
- Lay the doll on its back near the bed edge, legs hanging off or bent upward.
- Stand or kneel at the edge, aligning hips.
- Use pillows under buttocks for height adjustment.
- Stabilize legs with your hands.
- Variation: Legs over shoulders for deeper thrust.
It’s an excellent bridge to more dynamic positions.
Additional Beginner Tips for a Smooth Experience
- Care for joints: Always warm up joints by moving them gently. No forcing. Most dolls come with flexible but strong skeletons.
- Support Tools: Stock pillows, support cushions, or even a sex wedge.
- Lubrication and heat. Water-based lubricant is recommended, and a USB warmer is a good option for creating realistic temperatures.
- Weight management: The most helpful starting position for heavier dolls weighing more than 30kg is bed-based.
- Cleaning & storage: Rinse orifices after use, powder TPE skin, and store lying flat or hang.
- Progression: Beginning with 10 to 15 minutes of simple movements and gradually progressing to increasing complexity.
Choosing the right position during the process of having intercourse with your sex doll can be the factor that distinguishes a good experience from an exceptional experience. You should begin with some familiar sex positions such as the missionary or the spooning position in an effort to get accustomed to the process of sex doll intercourse. Afterwards, transition to more interesting sex doll intercourse positions, like the doggy style position.